'She thought we'd ‘rekindle' things': Bride invites her sister's ex-boyfriend to the wedding, attempting to get them back together; sister stands up for herself and refuses to attend

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    Organism - Posted by u/LucyAriaRose the Iranian yogurt is not the issue here 10 hours ago O AITA for Not Wanting to Attend My Sister's Wedding After She Lied About My Ex Being Invited? CONCLUDED
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    Font - Original Post: August 21, 2023 I (24F) am currently in a bit of a predicament and I need some honest opinions. My older sister (28F) is getting married in a few months, and the preparations have been quite stressful, to say the least. We used to be really close, but recently our relationship has been strained due to a series of
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    Font - conflicts. Here's where things took a turn. About a year ago, I went through a tough breakup with my ex-boyfriend (26M). The breakup was pretty messy and emotional, and it left me feeling pretty down for a while. I confided in my sister about it, and she was supportive and seemed understanding.
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    Font - Fast forward to now, and she's deep into her wedding planning. A couple of days ago, I overheard her talking to a friend on the phone, and I distinctly heard her say that she's excited for my ex to attend the wedding. I was shocked because I
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    Font - had no idea he was even invited, let alone that she was excited to have him there. I confronted her about it, and she admitted that she'd invited him without telling me because she thought we'd "rekindle" things. I was
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    Font - furious and hurt by her deception. I told her that I don't want to attend the wedding if my ex is going to be there, especially after her dishonesty. She's now saying that I'm overreacting and that it's her big day, so I should just "get over it" and come to support her.
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    Font - I'm torn between not wanting to ruin her wedding and standing up for myself. AITA? OOP is voted NTA Update Post: September 6, 2023 (16 days later) Hey everyone, I wanted to provide you all with an update on how things went
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    Font - regarding my decision not to attend my sister's wedding due to my ex's unexpected invitation. First off, thank you for the thoughtful advice and comments on my original post.
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    Font - After much contemplation, I decided to stick to my initial choice and not attend the wedding. It wasn't an easy decision, and I know it disappointed my family, especially my sister. I did have a conversation with her about it, explaining my reasons and feelings.
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    Font - She expressed her disappointment, but surprisingly, she also understood where I was coming from. We had a long conversation about how her actions had caught me off guard and the importance of respecting my feelings and boundaries. It wasn't a perfect resolution, but it was a start.
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    Font - The wedding happened without me, and from what I've heard, it was a beautiful day for her. Although I missed it, I'm glad she had a special day that she'll cherish. I still have mixed feelings about my decision, but for now, it feels like the right one for me.
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    Font - Thanks again for your support and advice throughout this process. It's been a challenging situation, but I appreciate the understanding and insights from this community.
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    Rectangle - Valuable_Reputation1. 10 hr. ago So she would rather you not be there than her uninviting the ex???
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    Font - tough youngster - 57 min. ago Was the ex there at the wedding or not? After hearing those worries, it should have been simple to say, "Okay, I get where you are coming from and I'm sorry, I'll uninvite the ex and would love it if you could come to the wedding." Instead, she picked the ex above her sister.
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    Rectangle - Blurgas 9 hr. ago It's possible Ex was uninvited but OOP still chose to avoid due to sisters' deception and/or the chance Ex shows up anyway
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    Rectangle - RickyNixon. 45 min. ago Thats how I read it. She doesnt trust sister to not pull some bulls t so she isnt going, period
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    Font - Irn brunette 7 hr. ago At the wedding of his exgf's sister. If the breakup was messy, why on earth would he ever agree to go?? He'd be surrounded by OP's family who, in a sane world, would all have taken her side in a breakup.
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    Font - Unless he was in on the "rekindling" plan and the bride was sure OP would cave to family pressure and capitulate at the last minute.
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    Font - Dear Occupant. 3 hr. ago Dude's got to be thirsty, because unless he's friends with OP's sister, which was never mentioned, there is no other reason to go. The only way I'm going to a wedding where I'm not friends or family with either the groom or the bride is if I'm on the clock as event staff.
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    Font - CindySvensson - 7 hr. ago I'm not that suprised. I think the sister wanting to avoid the drama of uninviting was much stronger than her like/love for her sister. They might have a good relationship on the surface, but the feelings don't run that deep.
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    Font - Tattycakes 5 hr. ago If she doesn't like her sister enough to make sure that she feels comfortable attending the wedding, why does she even care about her rekindling with an ex? What does she have so invested in that relationship??
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    Font - littleikaros 10 hr. ago I know it is really rude and can be even humiliating if i uninvite someone, but my own sister should be the priority. If I were her sis, I'd explain the situation to her ex and ask for understanding and uninvite him unless him and op's sis are the best friends even before they were couples.
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    Rectangle - Sleepy LilBee 7 hr. ago Screeching on the Front Lawn Ya, but that kind of rational thinking would lead you to crazy conclusions like "not inviting sister's ex without even consulting her first" and we can't have that.
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    Font - tessellation__. 36 min. ago Yeah, say "I admit I f d up. I was trying to do some social engineering. It was wrong and I'm so sorry but I need my sister there. I'll take you out for a coffee sometime, but please accept my apology and respect my decision to uninvite you. I am sorry again" to ex and be done.
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